Everyone wants to be happy. Just ask anyone “what do you want most in life” and they will more than likely answer, “to be happy”. What is this happiness craze all about anyway and how do we go about being happy?
My Personal Struggle with Happiness
I have found myself caught up in the happiness craze. I have spent lots of energy in the form of either time or money in the pursuit of it. Often times, I thought that buying another pair of shoes will bring me happiness. Or maybe losing the 10lbs of weight that has been hanging around my hips will make me happy. Or better yet, maybe the next relationship will do it.
I have to say that each of those achievements did bring me some happiness however it was a fleeting experience. It lasted for only short period of time and before long, I was right back feeling the same way I was before I either purchased the item, lost the weight, or started the relationship.
My Father’s Wise Words
I have come to realize that the best lesson on how to become and stay happy was being delivered every single day by my dad when I was growing up. Obviously, living at home allowed me to see how my dad was but I never equated his behaviour and daily habits to why he was such a happy man. Well, not until recently.
My dad was a man that did a few things really, really well and consistently and I think it was his formula for his happiness. First of all, he was grateful every day for things that were in his life. Often he would say things like, “I sure am a lucky guy”! Was he saying this because he had the latest sports car or because we just moved into a new, upgraded home. No. My family lived very modestly so it wasn’t riches and possessions that he was referring to. My dad just felt truly appreciative for everything he had in his life even if they were simple and inexpensive.
My dad made a habit out of making the same choice every single day and he did it before he got up in the morning. I remember him talking to me about this when I was a young girl. I didn’t really understand what he was getting at then, however now I see the true power in it.
He told me that every morning, before he put his feet on the floor to start his day he made a conscious choice to be happy. He said that we all have the power to choose how we will approach the upcoming day, either with positivity or negativity. He said that he always chose the positive option because it made the day go easier for both himself and everyone else. He also said that choosing to be positive does not guarantee the day will go well, however “it sure increases the chances that it will”. And you can’t argue with that logic!
Choose to be Happy
My dad and how he lived his life has shown me that it isn’t success that brings happiness per se but that happiness brings success regardless of how you define it. Following a few key daily habits like counting your blessings and consciously choosing happiness as a way of being can propel anyone towards a much happier life and none of these things cost money and we can all choose to do them starting right now.
Even when money was tight at home or problems arose, my dad always seemed to be happy and content. I know now that he wasn’t acting or just seeming to be happy, he truly was happy because he did a few simple yet conscious things every day that propelled him towards genuine lasting happiness.
Until Next Time
Watch for my next blog where I will talk about what formal research is telling us about how to achieve happiness. I will share more strategies that, if practiced daily can make a significant, noticeable and measurable impact on how truly happy you feel each and every day. And as always, I invite you to join in on the conversation on Facebook and Instagram.
To our Health and Wellbeing,