Do you ever feel your bad mood is just impossible to shake off? That it seems as if it has a grip on you and is out of your control? Positive thinking and affirmations are just not working to move past this bad mood?
Why is this? Why is it that sometime our moods are resistant to our positive thinking?
Well, there are two components to a mood. Firstly, there is your thinking, which includes your mental images and self-talk. Secondly, there is your physiology. By physiology, I do not just mean your posture, but your entire body. These two components feed each other, and each strengthens the other. It is like a back and forth relationship.This means that you have to change both your thinking and your physiology to get out of a bad mood
Why Does Positive Thinking Alone Sometimes Just Not Work?
I bet you have heard the saying that you just need to think positive thoughts to get out of a bad mood. Many of us who want to have a positive outlook and truly believe in the benefits of being positive are spending a lot of time and energy attempting to think positive thoughts as a way to manage our moods. So, we make sure that we imagine happy encounters, scenarios, outcomes and interactions. And then we say to ourselves: “cheer up, look on the bright side, there is always a lesson in everything”.
Now if a fairly strong negative mood has a grip on us and it has lasted days or even just hours, then this positive thinking and self-talk is just not going to have much of an impact. The reason is that the physiology of the mood is too powerful.
That is why, once we recognize that our positive thinking is not working, we often just give up. This allows the negative mood to just keep going.
However, when positive thinking alone is not working, it simply means that we are not going about it in the right way.
The quickest and easiest way to shake off a bad mood is to start with changing your physical body. This opens up the pathway to have clearer and more positive thinking. Once you have physically loosened things up, you can more easily deal with your thoughts.
Here is a checklist of things to check and change:
Scan your body and check for tension. Stretch out wherever you feel tension, whether it is in your back, shoulders, neck. Make sure you are standing and sitting straight with shoulders back and head up.
2. Facial Tension:
Your face can hold a lot of tension, especially in the brow and jaw area. Check on these places and see if you are holding tension there and if so, stretch it out.
3. Physical Movement:
Begin by sitting less and walking more. So many of us spend considerable time sitting in our cars or in front of screens. Our bodies are meant to be physically active however, our modern-day lifestyles do not support this. Get up and move for a couple of minutes each hour. Check your posture every hour or so to make sure you are not slumping or slouching. If you use a computer every day, try standing more while you are on it and also take time to look away and stretch your eye muscles. Sitting less will affect your mood. Try it for a week or two and see the results for yourself.
Wherever and whenever you feel comfortable, like when you are alone driving, or you are home alone, use the opportunity to sing. Sing happy songs that have a lively rhythm and notice how your mood changes. Songs that are associated with happy memories are the best to sing and will give you the extra boost of a positive memory to associate with. The other benefit of singing aloud is that it blocks internal self-talk, and it is the inner self talk that is maintaining the negative mood.
This is really a no-brainer. Smiling is just a powerful outward and inward expression of positivity. If you smile, chances are someone is going to smile back at you and that adds the benefit of you receiving the good feelings of the other person’s positivity. Smiling also internally turns on so many positive brain receptors that it floods your body with positive chemicals.
Move Yourself into a Better Mood
These physical techniques for feeling good are useful tools and can be easily integrated into your daily life. By changing your physicality you will soon notice that you feel better. And when you feel better you will start to think more positively and the bad mood will disappear… and then things can start to be different.
To our health and wellbeing,